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Alan Passed Away. Was: I am personally needing your help this time

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Daisy

I thought I could just move on and face the reality of solving my hospital bills slowly through the land titles I borrowed from my dad and my friend....I will not be because I dont have the original death certificate of Alan yet. The hospital only gave me a photocopy just for the purpose of getting a cremation permit.

 

Later I will try to see hoe much be deducted from Alan's hospital bills from PCSO, DSWD and Office of the Mayor. ....I am now PART TWO of this journey without ALan this time but with faith and hope that there's a rainbow up there.

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Bill H

Daisy, these are hard times for you I know.  You are kind of caught between a rock and a hard place here and it's the worst possible time for you to be making decisions.  However, time is not on your side, so you must push aside your grief and began the process of deciding what is best for your future.  If you stay in the Philippines paying back this debt will be a huge task, given the low wages here.  However, if you were to immigrate to the US this debt is no longer huge it is actually pretty small and you could manage it.  You will also be eligible for his SS benefit which may not be a lot, but it is surely more than you will get here.  If he was a Veteran, there may be some Veterans benefits you can get if you are in the US.  Finally, if you're not sure about leaving family and friends behind, consider this.  You only have to stay in the states for 3 years until you can become a citizen.  Once you have the blue passport, you can live anywhere you wish including the Philippines and can continue to get your SS payment if they are deposited directly to any US bank.

 

For all of the above reasons, I strongly encourage you to give serious considerations to getting your Widow Visa and moving to the States as soon as possible.  Getting a job there will not be that difficult and between your salary and your SS check, you should be able to live a fairly good life and pay off this debt.  That's how I see this situation anyway.

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Daisy

Daisy, these are hard times for you I know.  You are kind of caught between a rock and a hard place here and it's the worst possible time for you to be making decisions.  However, time is not on your side, so you must push aside your grief and began the process of deciding what is best for your future.  If you stay in the Philippines paying back this debt will be a huge task, given the low wages here.  However, if you were to immigrate to the US this debt is no longer huge it is actually pretty small and you could manage it.  You will also be eligible for his SS benefit which may not be a lot, but it is surely more than you will get here.  If he was a Veteran, there may be some Veterans benefits you can get if you are in the US.  Finally, if you're not sure about leaving family and friends behind, consider this.  You only have to stay in the states for 3 years until you can become a citizen.  Once you have the blue passport, you can live anywhere you wish including the Philippines and can continue to get your SS payment if they are deposited directly to any US bank.

 

For all of the above reasons, I strongly encourage you to give serious considerations to getting your Widow Visa and moving to the States as soon as possible.  Getting a job there will not be that difficult and between your salary and your SS check, you should be able to live a fairly good life and pay off this debt.  That's how I see this situation anyway.

 

Yes Bill I will do it....however, can anyone here report Alan's death to the Embassy? I've tried several times but I failed. I've done this reporting so many times in the past but how can I not know how do it for my own husband? Please just give them my contact number and email account. 09355676290 and  [email protected]

 

THANKS

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Paul

American Citizen Services is the department you need, Daisy. May need his Social Security Number too, if I am not mistaken?


Also, Daisy, there are members here who, I am VERY certain, will be happy to help you any way they can, until you can get yourself sorted in the US.

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Daisy

American Citizen Services is the department you need, Daisy. May need his Social Security Number too, if I am not mistaken?

Also, Daisy, there are members here who, I am VERY certain, will be happy to help you any way they can, until you can get yourself sorted in the US.

Whoever will do the reporting Paul, I will PM his SS number.

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Paul

Someone here, please contact the SSA and American Citizen Services, on behalf of Daisy. Send her a PM to get Alan's SS number. There is a local number to call, in order to do this.

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Headshot

Sorry, Headshot, I have to disagree with you on this support requirement. I do not see anywhere mentioning that an affidavit of support is required for applying the widow’s via. In order to make sure, I just got off the phone with the immigration attorney who handled our K visa application and he confirmed me that the affidavit of support is not required and what might be filed, as necessary, in this case would be a waiver of affidavit of support. He further told me there is a specialist for this type of visa in the Citizenship Services at the US Embassy Manila and he or she would help to file a widow's visa application, thus no need to retain a lawyer in most cases…

 

Thank you for correcting me on this. I certainly want Daisy to have the correct information. So, all she needs is money for a plane ticket and money to live on until she can find a job. I don't know how old Daisy is, but it is also possible that she can get SS survivor's benefits once she is in the US with a Green Card. That would go a long way toward her being able to support herself until she finds work. Unless I am mistaken (I'm sure Tonny can correct me if I am), she should have received a SS payment on the 3rd of this month, and should also be entitled to the payment she receives on the 3rd of next month (which is for August). I believe SS pays for the death month. That is, supposing that Daisy and Alan both had access to the account where Alan's SS payments are deposited.

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Daisy

Thank you for correcting me on this. I certainly want Daisy to have the correct information. So, all she needs is money for a plane ticket and money to live on until she can find a job. I don't know how old Daisy is, but it is also possible that she can get SS survivor's benefits once she is in the US with a Green Card. That would go a long way toward her being able to support herself until she finds work. Unless I am mistaken (I'm sure Tonny can correct me if I am), she should have received a SS payment on the 3rd of this month, and should also be entitled to the payment she receives on the 3rd of next month (which is for August). I believe SS pays for the death month. That is, supposing that Daisy and Alan both had access to the account where Alan's SS payments are deposited.

 

I was able to withdraw his July pension last August 3 with his own signature and a medical certificate to prove that he cant be able to collect it over the counter.

 

Truly, I am so broken, shattered and in total emotional pain. I cant even move on because I dont have a copy of his death certificate which the hospital hold.

 

This is the only one that keeps me going and it is in knowing that Alan is meet by Christ himself because before he died he keep on saying in an audible voice.."I saw....I saw...."  so I asked, Honey I am so sorry i can't understand you, please write what you see.." and so he did!

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Paul

Daisy, as a Christian, I appreciate your faith in God, your praise to Christ. I also know you are grieving. While Alan wasn't able to leave you tons of money to live on, he was able to provide you, through death, a way to carry on with your life. It has to be YOUR choice as to whether or not you decide to take it. 

Since you were able to get the cremation sorted, I can't say I would worry too much about the death certificate, unless the US Embassy needs it. If they do, you can let them know why you are not able to provide that to them at this time. 

 

Personally, I would focus on whether you are going to attempt to go to the US, or not. That SHOULD BE YOUR PRIORITY NOW. 

 

I don't want this to turn into a tough love statement. But, while your faith will help you through this, God above also expects a certain amount of work from us, as well. So, you need to stop focusing so much on that, and start focusing on what He is helping you with at the moment. 

 

We have members who have offered to help you out until you could secure a job in the US. So, you need to start deciding if you want to try to do this, or not. If you are going to do it, you really should get on the ball here and start the process. If you are not going to apply to go to the US, you need to let us know as well, so we will not be putting so much into this either, collectively.

 

So, what will it be? What do you want to do?

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ozboy

Daisy..i know its been a while, but did Alan ever mention his family back home or did he leave any contact details of anyone there??

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Alan S

Whilst I rarely disagree with Paul, in this case I am going to.

 

A possible move to the US might be an excellent idea, but right now, Daisy has a pile of debts, some secured on property owned by others.

 

As an honourable person, I am sure she doesnt want to walk out, leaving others to pay her debts.

 

Hence, I suspect that this problem is keeping her occupied.

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Davaoeno

 

 

I am sure she doesnt want to walk out, leaving others to pay her debts.

 

 

I dont think for one moment that Paul was suggesting that she run out on her debts.  Getting a job in the US would be her best possible opportunity to in fact pay those debts 

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miles-high

A possible move to the US might be an excellent idea, but right now, Daisy has a pile of debts, some secured on property owned by others.

 

As an honourable person, I am sure she doesnt want to walk out, leaving others to pay her debts.

I have to disagree with you on this – as I mentioned my post above, as well as in his post by Bill H, my geusstimate is her potential income would be 5 to 10 times higher in the US, and her debt would be considered small in the US.

 

I am sure she would not “walk out” from her debt, rather she could guaranty that she would be repaying her debt from her income

 

This would be her only opportunity to become a legal OFW, so to speak, without any intermediary and if I were her creditor, I would definitely feel more “secure” if she was to seek an employment in the US. If she was to seek an employment in the Philippines, the creditor(s) would end up with some land or property with questionable marketability.

 

Accordingly, we should encourage her to move forward, enjoy her new life, after properly grieving her loss…

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I was able to withdraw his July pension last August 3 with his own signature and a medical certificate to prove that he cant be able to collect it over the counter.

 

Truly, I am so broken, shattered and in total emotional pain. I cant even move on because I dont have a copy of his death certificate which the hospital hold.

 

Daisy, how did Alan have the bank account set up where the SS is deposited? Was he the sole owner of the account or are you a joint owner? Is there a reason why you need to go the the counter to withdraw money. Isn't there an ATM card tied to the account? There should be one more SS payment that you are entitled to, since he was alive for part of August. It is likely you won't have access to the death certificate for some weeks, but by going to the NSO office where they actually process the certificates, you may be able to get it expedited. That might help you to get other things sorted faster.

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