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Poll: support family? How much?


How much support?  

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  1. 1. How much do you contribute

    • You crazy? I give nothing.
      11
    • Only help in emergencies.
      35
    • 0-999 piso per month
      3
    • 1000 to 4999 piso per month
      24
    • 5000 to 9999 piso per month
      13
    • Over 10000 piso per month
      13
    • They support me!!!
      5


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Pman

It's a part of the culture here. So sound off how much if any do you contribute?

 

This is not money you give your gf for her and kids. This is money you give for her parents brothers and sisters, etc...

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Being a filipino my self I was brought up to help in any way i can (family) Family is priceless Some say its a culture thing I say how can you put a price on a family? If you love someone you mu

My FIL and brother in law supported us while we got things going years ago. Now FIL is over 80, and unable to work, or even think straight. It doesn't bother me a bit to help him now. We normally give

Bottom line is, we give WAY too much, and it is NOT appreciated.

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broden

we only help when help is needed... so just emergencies 

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Monsoon

You forgot: "They support me." 

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SomeRandomGuy

I ask very simply.

If i were filipino would it be expected of me to support my gf's family.

 

Being the answer is no, then you have your answer.

If my mrs wants to support her family then she must work hard to make her own money.

 

Will not tolerate a hand out family.

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Monsoon

I ask very simply.

If i were filipino would it be expected of me to support my gf's family.

 

Being the answer is no, then you have your answer.

If my mrs wants to support her family then she must work hard to make her own money.

 

Will not tolerate a hand out family.

 

I'm trying to think of well off Filipinos I know who married very far out of their own social class... 

Can't think of any off hand. 

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Pman

You forgot: "They support me."

 

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SomeRandomGuy

I'm trying to think of well off Filipinos I know who married very far out of their own social class... 

 

Can't think of any off hand.

 

Exactly right.

They are class biased and never marry down.

 

That is not a great point though and at its core a big problem in this society.

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Pman

Bottom line is, we give WAY too much, and it is NOT appreciated.

Guess that depends on the family.

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Paul

I voted "They support me", since I have had families do more for me, than I have for them, in all reality. But, I have paid electric and water while staying on family properties. That seems to make them quite happy. I would also help in urgency, of course.

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SomeRandomGuy

Bottom line is, we give WAY too much, and it is NOT appreciated.

No its not that it is not appreciated.

Its in the past and no longer matters.

Its what happens when people get used to hand outs.

 

This is something you have to think about.

If they date you they have to learn to bend with YOUR culture.

Its not you having to bend over backwards for THIER culture.

And giving out handouts is not part of THIER culture.

Looking after your immediate family is but if a woman only dates you so u can help support her family then that is prostitution.

 

As far as I'm concerned .

U want to help your family, have some pride and get a job.

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smokey

does anyone support family back in their home country or is that considered anti cultural

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Pman

does anyone support family back in their home country or is that considered anti cultural

I do.

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Paul

Bottom line is, we give WAY too much, and it is NOT appreciated.

 

Bill, HOW much you give, is up  to YOU, not THEM. If you keep giving and giving, it's on you, not them. So, put a stop to it. 

 

They will think you are the asshole. But, I would rather be an asshole, than a mooched off asshole. 

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