Skywalker 19,177 Posted March 3, 2015 Author Share Posted March 3, 2015 I had a penpal once while working on Johnston Atol about 20 years ago. Thought everything was peachy keen. Went to Singapore to meet her for 24 hours (she was working as a maid there). Signed her up for a fiancee' visa and got her into the USA lickety-split. Within a month, she disappeared to join her "true love" in Boston. What a romantic story. I was brimming with tears, and my heart was pumping out purple people eaters. However, I am interested in one question. Before you actually met this paradigm of virtue, and your 24 hour Singapore sling, did you actually profess true "love" (in this case on paper)? Just seeking further assistance in my extensive research for a future book. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
jtmwatchbiz 31,414 Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 I understand the complexities involved. I was sort of alluding towards the nuts and bolts of forming a friendship with regard to building up to an actual relationship, which incorporates the usual (old fashioned?) contact, initial meeting, dating, intimacy and perhaps sex, yes it's hard for me to imagine this working in an online setting. usually a valid relationship for me involves slamming on the brakes in front of the vacation hotel at 3:30am while motioning for my new love interest to approach the car. 5 minutes later and i got all the stuff you listed above and more. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
lamoe 14,545 Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 (edited) One way to tell if you do like someone for their personality is to see them when they've just woken up in person or on cam Edited March 3, 2015 by lamoe Link to post Share on other sites
smokey 21,914 Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 I still find the very idea, that you can in all sincerity say "I love you" to somebody that you have never actually met, quite ludicrous. And what is more, I am right! Of course I agree that many relationships start online, I'm not living in the dark ages. I am somewhat perturbed by some of the members here, who seem to have missed the point of my original post, to go off on a tangent about the nature of love, and how it takes its course. My whole point was to question the validity of "love" between 2 people who haven't physically met. There is something quite amusing about seeing some people painting themselves into the corner of righteous indignation. lots of different kinds of love... you love your mother ? your sister? an auntie ? grandmother .. ? a movie you say... a car you own ... Link to post Share on other sites
Mikala 14,383 Posted March 3, 2015 Share Posted March 3, 2015 Before you actually met this paradigm of virtue, and your 24 hour Singapore sling, did you actually profess true "love" (in this case on paper)? Nope. Waited to meet the girl in person. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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