Headshot 29,535 Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 (edited) I believe that if someone told me I was the father of such a beautiful kid.. I would not be demanding a paternity test. I would take the kid and run. Get the kid a US passport (you are Murican right?) or wherever you are from.. Ask her to accompany the kid to Hong Kong with you .. say your goodbyes and take your son home. Congrats. I believe Carlo is Swiss. I hope you aren't suggesting that he take the child from its mother in Hong Kong. That would certainly not end well. Besides, if somebody told you that a child was yours...your wife might have something to say about it. Edited July 29, 2014 by Headshot 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stgCarlo 115 Posted July 29, 2014 Author Share Posted July 29, 2014 update: easydna it seems is not bad.. even with the mistake not sending a sencond test 1. they told me at online support directly they made a mistake 2. the supporter promised to me to care about this personally 3. the supporter texted me some hours later he is at lbc now 4. a hour later he or she texted me the lbc tracking number.. test kit is at lbc now and child will have test tomorrow.. its the first time maybe someone from a company did really all he promised me in time Take child with me: the mother asked me already if i like to bring my son to my country to show him to my family.. not such hard to keep him there but what do i wish to do with a child alone there? better live here and enjoy child and let mother work to feed, clean, and so on and let papa enjoy zoo fishing and other things with son as people say in my country: crying childs belong to her mother Link to post Share on other sites
samatm 3,092 Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 I believe Carlo is Swiss. I hope you aren't suggesting that he take the child from its mother in Hong Kong. That would certainly not end well. Besides, if somebody told you that a child was yours...your wife might have something to say about it. No not a kidnap.. a prearranged deal with the mother to allow the Child back to the country of the father.. to assume paternity. Link to post Share on other sites
Headshot 29,535 Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 OK, but that seems over-complicated to me. Paternity can be established right here in the Philippines...and since this is where he has chosen to live (at least for now)...why not just stay here with his son and GF? It sounds like the GF is very agreeable to that. It isn't likely that she would give up custody of her son and be OK with never seeing him again. Link to post Share on other sites
stgCarlo 115 Posted July 29, 2014 Author Share Posted July 29, 2014 i talked about child support and money with her actual just to know for me what she expects.. after some calculations she told me depending on where i wish that she lives she will need for example every month 1500p for a room 4500p for baby (milk, diappers, fruits, vitamins, clothes, ... and sometimes a small toy) 0p for her she says she is able to earn some money with cleaning or laundry to have someting to eat for herself what makes 6000p a month and if i would be able to afford 7000p a month would be nice.. then they can go sometimes to a mall (fare) and do window shopping or eat ice cream for 5p on street or have a bbq or so sometimes together living with her parents she said 4000p would be ok then.. 5000p would be fine living with me she do not know... sounds reasonable.. it seems we do not have a problem about this Link to post Share on other sites
Headshot 29,535 Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 Well, it doesn't sound like she is greedy. Why did you let this girl get away in the first place? Link to post Share on other sites
stgCarlo 115 Posted July 29, 2014 Author Share Posted July 29, 2014 i was not ready march 2012 for a relationship... easy like that and she wished to be gf.. the reason i came to cebu was my brother said i should take a break for some weeks or months and suggested thailand or phils to take a look as long im young enough to do something like that... at this time the company i worked for closed cause of money... 8 months of paperwork to do without salary.. more or less same time my relationship ended i had with my ex gf and kids.. (16 years) that was my 3. company closing in 5 years.. and everytime i lost a lot of money.. working as r & d manager for them.. i needed a break and started to think about going some time to italy or bulgaria.. i love to live close to sea or a big lake.. in swiss i lived close to bodensee a lake 65km long and around 5km wide.. after talking with some people living in phils and reading here in forum i came to cebu cause its central and able to look around, phils cause of language.. able to talk with people and not like thailand with bar girls only to start new relationship it was the wrong time having no plan how long i will stay here or what i will do in some weeks 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Headshot 29,535 Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 Well, since you've been here for over two years, you must have found some good online work to keep you living in a decent style. I guess that, if she wanted to be your GF then, she must have been attracted to you. That leaves a lot of options open to you...if the boy is yours. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stgCarlo 115 Posted July 29, 2014 Author Share Posted July 29, 2014 i started to make a company with a friend i worked with in last company.. doing monitoring services for agencies who do serch engine optimazation for companies.. as long i live in phils i have more as i need here.. im since October, 22 2010 in cebu.. sometimes it takes longer to get a free mind again and yes there are many options.. she told me she would like to be a happy family with son, wife and husband already too.. but this is nothing im thinking about now.. son or not.. you need to live at least 6 months together first to see if all works fine and you have harmony all together Link to post Share on other sites
Headshot 29,535 Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 I am guessing that she would live together as BF/GF for as long as you need. After all, she is in a bit of a fix. If she gets impatient about marriage, you just need to tell her that when you are ready, YOU will ask her to marry you...not the other way around. In fact, if the two of you are living together here, you will be considered as married by everybody...regardless of whether or not you have a marriage certificate. Link to post Share on other sites
stgCarlo 115 Posted July 29, 2014 Author Share Posted July 29, 2014 this is no problem yet.. she told me already she will wait.. i can have fun / girls as long i like and when i do not need to have fun anymore she will be there with son to care me.. no preassure yet.. but this can change.. Link to post Share on other sites
Headshot 29,535 Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 Just don't have any more accidents... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stgCarlo 115 Posted July 29, 2014 Author Share Posted July 29, 2014 In fact, if the two of you are living together here, you will be considered as married by everybody...regardless of whether or not you have a marriage certificate. yes thats why girls at the place she or we will live girls are not allowed for me.. if that then get a room for that (she did not say this but im sure its the only way) Link to post Share on other sites
stgCarlo 115 Posted July 29, 2014 Author Share Posted July 29, 2014 Just don't have any more accidents... for a soccer team i have to lees yet in fact two friends asked me if i like to have a baby with them too now not a way i wish to go.. Link to post Share on other sites
Bill H 6,576 Posted July 29, 2014 Share Posted July 29, 2014 i supported my daughter from birth till 18 and soon after had a huge argument with my x and she said ... Robert your so stupid its unbelievable she is not your daughter and if you dont see that get a better eye doctor she is mine and kennys but kenny did not have a steady job then ((( he still dont )) so WE had no choice but to LET you be the legal father ...and we appreciate all the support you did give but really Robert 800 a month plus schooling and medical is not THAT much plus WE let you write her off on your taxes so we are even Is you ex's name Ashley by any chance? <sigh> Link to post Share on other sites
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