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Jack, pay particular attention to Larry/Shadow (who can help you a great deal in the visa process if you get to that point...helping people expedite their visa process is part of his business and he has links to his websites at the bottom of his posts), Broden (who is one of our administrators and lives in San Antonio with his long-time Filipina wife), and Skyman (who lives here on Cebu with his wife and definitely has his head on straight).

 

Please, for your sake and hers, SLOW DOWN. You do nobody any favors when you commit to marry a woman that you haven't even met in person yet. When you are together, either one of you may find things in the other that they didn't expect and don't like...but if you have both already committed to marry, it may be impossible to change your minds (psychologically, it is very difficult to get off a horse that is already galloping toward the finish line.). You will find yourself (and her) not wanting to disappoint others (including each other) or waste money that is already committed or whatever...a momentum is created that can sweep both of you into a situation that could have been avoided if you had been moving more slowly. Talking online can be a great way to get to know one side of a person, but you can't hope to know them completely until you spend quite a bit of time physically together.

 

So...come and take her to a resort someplace where you can get to know her better, and then live with her (outside of a resort setting) at least long enough to know her quirks and let her know yours. Spend enough time with her family that you are pretty sure you know them well (because when you marry a Filipina, you also marry her family).

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Hijack!! Welcome.

 

and a fair number of casualties too.

 

 

Step 1: Background: Have you met your fiancé and whereabouts does she live (island/city)? And may I also ask, about when is 'in the near future?'

 

Step 2: Research this site a lot.

 

 

Step 3: Ask lots of questions which will guide the remaining steps.

I have not met her personally but her aunt next door talks to her and her family every 2 or 3 days and visits almost annually.

She lives in the area of Lapu Lapu City.

Near future is possibly within a month. I'm going with her aunt and her husband so I have an advantage of going with a local.Husband is trying to arrange a vacation.as we speak, perhaps over the Christmas holidays.

Thanks a lot, I really appreciate it.

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You are probably looking at about two years on that one.

Welcome and howdy, I came in from Wichita Falls  and wonder what area you are in.

I live on Lake Texoma, fly my plane out of North Texas Regional Airport, Denison, Texas

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There are some casualties from that too.

 

Two years is a bit extreme although it has taken longer but that's rare.

 

If you have not actually met you do not actually know her.

 

Ok, then realistically, how soon do you think it might be before you can come and how long do you plan to stay when you come? If you want to bring her back with you then expect to be here a minimum of 6 months. Do you plan to marry here or in Texas? Much cheaper here. What do you know about her family besides her aunt?

Hi!

If you have not actually met you do not actually know her.  I agree completely. I have known her aunt next door for 4 years, she helped raise her and her aunt is how I met her. My fiance's 19 year old younger sister has my back, I talk to her almost as much as Rose. She keeps me posted of Rose and what she is doing, thinking, stuff like that, she is very supportive of Rose.

Hopefully visit Ph Christmas if neighbor can arrange vacation. We plan to stay a week or two so I can't bring her home with me. I plan to marry her over there, her aunt , my next door neighbor is my only source. Her husband and my best friend has visited for a month at a time every two years for the last 10 years so I know I am getting a pretty clear picture of her family.

Thanks for asking. 

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Hello Jack, welcome to the forum.

 

If you marry her in the Philippines current timeline to get her to the US is 10-12 months. If you petition her as a fiance current timeline is 5-8 months. Timelines vary quite a bit by service center and when you file. If there is a lot of filers at the same time the service centers get backed up, which can easily add months to the process.

 

Here are two pages you should read which may answer some of your questions;

 

http://www.pinayvisa.com/getting-married-in-the-philippines.html

 

http://www.pinayvisa.com/which-visa-is-best.html

 

Larry

WOW!

Thank you kindly!

Jack

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Welcome, Jack. Let me know when you get over to Cebu, I'll buy you a beer (even if you did come from NORTH Texas!)

 

Which north, central or panhandle?

 

From Houston, here.

 

Good luck and let us know how its going.

Thanks, I live on Lake Texoma and fly my plane out of North Texas Regional, Dennison, TX

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Jack, pay particular attention to Larry/Shadow (who can help you a great deal in the visa process if you get to that point...helping people expedite their visa process is part of his business and he has links to his websites at the bottom of his posts), Broden (who is one of our administrators and lives in San Antonio with his long-time Filipina wife), and Skyman (who lives here on Cebu with his wife and definitely has his head on straight).

 

Please, for your sake and hers, SLOW DOWN. You do nobody any favors when you commit to marry to a woman that you haven't even met in person yet. When you are together, either one of you may find things in the other that they didn't expect and don't like...but if you have both already committed to marry, it may be impossible to change your minds (psychologically, it is very difficult to get off a horse that is already galloping toward the finish line.). You will find yourself (and herself) not wanting to disappoint others (including each other) or waste money that is already committed or whatever...a momentum is created that will sweep both of you into a situation that could have been avoided if you had been moving more slowly. Talking online can be a great way to get to know one side of a person, but you can't hope to know them completely until you spend quite a bit of time physically together.

 

So...come and take her to a resort someplace where you can get to know her better, and then live with her (outside of a resort setting) at least long enough to know her quirks and let her know yours. Spend enough time with her family that you are pretty sure you know them well (because when you marry a Filipina, you also marry her family).

GREAT ADVICE! Copied to notebook. THANKS 

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GREAT ADVICE! Copied to notebook. THANKS 

 

You're welcome.

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Welcome Jack,

 

Many Texans here on the forum. I myself was also born and raised in Houston. Recently been back for a little over a month now. Good advice from some guys who may not have been where you are, but know where you're coming from. Slow and steady buddy. You will get up to speed and and many members available to help once you arrive here.

 

My advice to you is use the search box in the upper right side of the top of the page. There are soooooo many archived pages here with very valuable info. That should be enough to get you started. Take care and good luck with your current plans.

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Jack -  Richardson TX  here.   Used to visit the Ol' Peanut plant in  Denison - YEARS AGO. (YUP I think its time for a Texans Meet up ) . 

 

You gotta get over here.. and find a place to hang your hat for a  several months for proper courting and to get used the Pinoy culture.    This of course will mean you need to get yourself a guitar and begin the serenading traditions of your beloved before you ask Papa for here hand in marriage. 

 

While you are here..  plan on flying out of  Mactan airport  (CEB)    She would love that.. several FBOs ready to loan out a 172.  beautiful sites and friendly islands nearby. 

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Well thanks for the big Hey, and I hope y'all the very best. :biggrin_01:

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