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Moral obligations when creating Filipino babies

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Edwin

Child support laws were created to force those without ethical standards to support their children.

 

With any child you create in any country you have the moral obligation to make sure he has better education, better healthcare, better housing, better nutrition, etc. than you did growing up 30, 40 or 50 years ago. If a man does that with his first family why would his second family be entitled to less? Your child's needs should always come before your own.

 

Better housing, for example, can be a more loving household with internet access, not a more expensive house. All things are relative and adjustable but ethical obligations don't change.

 

Fathers and hit and run specialists who won't support their children deserve castration.

 

Legal obligation never enters the mind of the ethical father.

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Stranded Shipscook

Sadly in the modern world moral has been thrown over board when it comes to the point that it costs money.

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CardiacKid

There is another category of low life that deserves a mention. That is the guys who come here, marry a woman with children, then tire of the arrangement and go back to their home country and leave the wife and children destitute.

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Davaoeno

There is another category of low life that deserves a mention. That is the guys who come here, marry a woman with children, then tire of the arrangement and go back to their home country and leave the wife and children destitute.

 

 

People get married and have children and then split up all the time. I dont see why the fact that the other person already had children when you met them qualifies them for any special level of lowlifeness .

 

If you want to be pragmatic about it [ and i am not defending anything here] if you get together with someone who is undoubtedly destitute, raise their standard of living for some time, and then leave them to once more be destitute - have you actually caused any harm to anyone ?? [ assuming you split up for the usual reasons]

 

If guys were responsible for the lifetime welfare of someone elses kids any time they were in a relationship with them nobody would ever get involved with a woman with children

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SkyMan
If guys were responsible for the lifetime welfare of someone elses kids any time they were in a relationship with them nobody would ever get involved with a woman with children
Yeah, maybe it got confused in there with all that 'until death do you part' thing.

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A_Simple_Man
With any child you create in any country you have the moral obligation to make sure he has better education, better healthcare, better housing, better nutrition, etc. than you did growing up 30, 40 or 50 years ago

 

I am sure your heart is in the right place but you don't get to decide what is moral or immoral for me. We have to decide for ourselves what is right or wrong.

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USMC-Retired

Moral to ensure you protect yourself by asking questions There are so many that will say I am on the pill or can not get pg. If you ask and that is the answer well you have attempted to do your part Reckless behaviour should not be rewarded or even considered morally correct

Leaving someone that become pg after reckless behaviour can in no way be morally correct.

 

Everyone should act in a responsible manner and assume responsibility for their actions.

 

My 2 cents for what its worth

 

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For Real

This topic touches on morality, what is more interesting to me there is no defined model about what manhood is anymore.

Interesting thread

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For Real

With any child you create in any country you have the moral obligation to make sure he has better education, better healthcare, better housing, better nutrition, etc. than you did growing up 30, 40 or 50 years ago. If a man does that with his first family why would his second family be entitled to less? Your child's needs should always come before your own.

Better housing, for example, can be a more loving household with internet access, not a more expensive house. All things are relative and adjustable but ethical obligations don't change.

Legal obligation never enters the mind of the ethical father.

Now we are all hooked in, i'd like to provoke a little more.

 

My take is this.

A real man would do all he can in his power to provide the best support he can provide for his own children, the children he has promised to treat as his own or even the children in his partial non parental care.

 

A male person who impregnates & runs or say's this child is none of my responsibility because <fill in the blank> cannot call himself a man.

Am i alone in this thinking?

 

My father died when i was young and another man stepped into his place...my life turned for the better and i had far better opportunities because this happened.

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Davaoeno

Yeah, maybe it got confused in there with all that 'until death do you part' thing.

 

 

dont get me wrong - I have assumed responsibilty [ since his mother was 5 months pregnant ] for a 2 year old who is not my birth son- but I didnt do it because I was obliged to do it , nor because someone pressured me to do it, nor because i felt that morally I should do it - I did it because i wanted to do it

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Davaoeno
i had far better opportunities because this happened.

 

 

I have really mixed emotions when I read that !

The primary thing about being a father is supposed to be about love and caring- not about opportunities. Its interesting that you dont mention that your step father loved you like you were his own. just stating my reaction

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For Real

I have really mixed emotions when I read that !

The primary thing about being a father is supposed to be about love and caring- not about opportunities. Its interesting that you dont mention that your step father loved you like you were his own. just stating my reaction

Thanks for sharing your reaction

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Edwin

I am sure your heart is in the right place but you don't get to decide what is moral or immoral for me. We have to decide for ourselves what is right or wrong.

 

Thanks, A-Simple-Man. I agree.

 

I stated what I feel a man's obligations should be and hope you will do the same.

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smokey

Child support laws were created to force those without ethical standards to support their children.

 

With any child you create in any country you have the moral obligation to make sure he has better education, better healthcare, better housing, better nutrition, etc. than you did growing up 30, 40 or 50 years ago. If a man does that with his first family why would his second family be entitled to less? Your child's needs should always come before your own.

 

Better housing, for example, can be a more loving household with internet access, not a more expensive house. All things are relative and adjustable but ethical obligations don't change.

 

Fathers and hit and run specialists who won't support their children deserve castration.

 

Legal obligation never enters the mind of the ethical father.

 

 

 

i agree with you but what do they do with the women who have children by many dads and want to collect pay days from each while sitting on the couch eating bon bons

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smokey

Yeah, maybe it got confused in there with all that 'until death do you part' thing.

 

 

 

yes and i do see some women using that as a way out of poverty also... what shocks me is when faced with a break up some are not willing to share and want it all which gives new meaning to the catch all phase of (( Love )) to many its a word not a meaning

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