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"Cyberbullies"- the new Antisocial trend in the 21st Century - from the BBC


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littlePP

Well I have a problem with that also. All this " i dare you to say that to my face" kind of macho neanderthal bullshit. To me it always reeks of someone who watched too many john Wayne or Rambo movies. What the hell has being physically able to hurt someone else got to do with being a man ? or being strong? or having self confidence? or being brave?

 

It always amuses me when guys start bragging about how they are such real men because they were in the Marines . Real men dont need to be able to punch other people's teeth out to show that they are real men .

 

A lot of "real men" have discovered the hard way that being tough doesnt stop you from dying when someone puts a bullet in your head.

 

I have more respect for the kid who hugged the little girl who was hurt than i do for the kid who punches someone else in the face.

 

 

Both my kids started training in tae kwon do at age 6 and 8 and did it for 5 years until they both got black belts. And that was hard style - not this pretend to hit bullshit. Neither of them has ever been in a fight- but I made sure that if unable to avoid a fight they could certainly defend themselves.

 

Posted 29 October 2011 - 03:38 PM

snapback.pngILPI, on 29 October 2011 - 03:08 PM, said:

 

I think you got some problems

 

if you think i have problems i suggest you come here and discuss them with me face to face like a man ! - Davaono

 

 

 

Wow Ian, you're more all over then the U. :potkettle:

 

 

You don't remember wanting to meet this poster face to face like a "man"?

 

:lol::oldtimer:

 

Old grumpy Ian ready to throw it down! :cheers:

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smokey

i always head it the people who dont say a word you have to watch out for .....remember the movie casino .... first dig the hole

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philuk

My oldest step son was having a problem with a bully on his bus. The kid was much bigger than him and would beat on him to and from school. I took a day off work and went to see the principal and his teacher with my wife. They said they had talked to the kid and his parents and that there wasn't anything else they could do. I said, you can't put him on another bus? They said no. I said ok, well let me tell you this, if that kid lays another hand on my son, I will sue this school, and then I will sue you (I pointed at the principal) and you (I pointed at his teacher). Then got up and walked out. They transferred the bully to another bus and we never had another problem.

 

Had similar problem with my youngest lad, Altough he could take care of himself, there was one such kid in the area a couple years older and bigger,

Always having a go with his mates, my lad came home once too often with a bloody nose and i flipped,

Found the little shit and told him if he ever went near my lad again i would go round to his house and give his dad a good hiding

 

Problem solved

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Davaoeno

Posted 29 October 2011 - 03:38 PM

snapback.pngILPI, on 29 October 2011 - 03:08 PM, said:

 

I think you got some problems

 

 

 

 

Wow Ian, you're more all over then the U. :potkettle:

 

 

You don't remember wanting to meet this poster face to face like a "man"?

 

:lol::oldtimer:

 

Old grumpy Ian ready to throw it down! :cheers:

 

 

All that time wasted dredging through old posts and yet you still couldnt come up with a single quote where I threatened someone with physical force, or even implied anything physical ?? keep looking - I've made over 5000 posts so do your best !! I'll be waiting !

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How interesting. In fact psychopaths have a history of being serial bullies in their childhood. And then they continue bullying others at the workplace where the worst is when a boss is a psycho. Then the subordinate can't do much.

 

Another remarkable trait of a psychopath is the so called "projection" - which is also related to blaming.

 

So imagine, you have a problem with a psychopath, and you seek help by telling people about the matter. Soon you can find yourself in the position of a bully as of course the psycho will deny what you said (even its true to the last word) and will give a reason such as you bully him.

 

Which - by the books - is very typical for a psycho.

 

How such stories end? Always depend on your network of people and the network of the psycho.

 

Psychos are charming and can be very convincing. When they scam you obviously you will get angry and people will see that, while the psycho (who perhaps got away with your money for example) keeps calm, the money is with him and he has not been conned.

 

People tend to follow their emotions and ignore rational thinking, also quite superficial. Enough if they consider the psycho a "nice guy" and you will NEVER prove the truth just may become a potential target of a new bully - or what this thread discusses: cyberbully.

And before you clean yourself from the accusations and bullies, the psycho is far away.

 

So what do you do? Nothing. Next time you will want to watch out for a psycho by knowing how to identify them. Not so difficult.

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littlePP

All that time wasted dredging through old posts and yet you still couldnt come up with a single quote where I threatened someone with physical force, or even implied anything physical ?? keep looking - I've made over 5000 posts so do your best !! I'll be waiting !

 

 

No time at all Ian, I remember that thread simply because I live(d) in Davao as well, and it was of interest to me. I was surprised to see you lose your cool and want to meet somebody face to face -like a man.

 

Now, you did not say you were going to choke him out, or exactly what skills you were going to use, but nobody ever does.

 

Now, read your post again.

 

 

All this " i dare you to say that to my face" kind of macho neanderthal bullshit."

 

See?

 

You yourself just called that John Wayne bullshit and followed that with

 

 

What the hell has being physically able to hurt someone else got to do with being a man ?

 

This was all the same sentance. See it?

 

Now of course you see what problem I have with that quote, when in a thread that you were getting stressed, you finished a thread with -

 

if you think i have problems i suggest you come here and discuss them with me face to face like a man !

 

Every single thing you said NOT to do, the face to face, and being a man, was said by you in that davao post.

 

Now, please do tell how this is any different then what you just said you were against in this very thread? - where you said that same exact quote you made in a thread I have linked was indeed a threat, yet, yours, despite the same exact words you state as a threat, is somehow now, not.

 

Just makes me wonder Ian. :cheers:

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Davaoeno

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Just makes me wonder Ian.

 

 

then today isnt a total loss for either of us !!

 

 

 

 

stay alert and I will tell you what your next assignment is .

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broden

All that time wasted dredging through old posts and yet you still couldnt come up with a single quote where I threatened someone with physical force, or even implied anything physical ?? keep looking - I've made over 5000 posts so do your best !! I'll be waiting !

 

so all that pillow talk really did mean nothing?

 

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Stranded Shipscook

Maybe i should point to the OP and redirect the attention to the word "Cyber".

 

it is about children becoming "bullied" via SMS, Twitter, Facebook and other very popular platforms. Although similarto the old style harrasment, the difference is that it is

 

a.) psychological( And Children are not "thicked skinned" against this yet as adults are,the damage can be lifelong)

 

b.) it can be "done" by anyone,unlike in the "good old days"( what i read here makes them look not so good at all , lol )where a certain physical superiority was required to bully others now virtually everyone can be a "bully".

 

It came up into my mind, as recently i heard that the 12year daughter of one of my friends had to undergo Psychological treatment and change the school because of this. The "culprit" who caused it has yet to be identified, as all internet traces were "fogged", which indicates that the other person had wide knowledge of the net technology.

 

And that was in Germany. The Federal Police is now investigating the case which shows its importance and gravity.

 

But the BBC link is quite good on the subject,for anyone who has kids, he should "arm" himself with knowledge.

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broden

kids can be sensitive.. sure.. but it's something you can work on with them before the fact or at least before it gets out of hand..

 

sure at times in his life my kid has come to me about someone calling him names or whatever. and i always use that as a teaching moment.

 

he learns more and more every day how to blow that stuff off

 

 

sticks and stones

 

 

 

you need to work with your kids.. it can be an ugly world out there cyber or otherwise

not preparing them for it does them a major disservice

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