[BigRob]

Ok...I'm trying to figure out the correct course of action for this particular case...and looking for advise.

Michelle's family is currently supporting three kids that both the mother and father have abandoned. The mother of the three kids is Michelle's older sister.
The Mother and Father separated a number of years ago and the mother had been supporting them on her own. Then a few years ago, the mother decided to go visit a friends house and just left the kids there. No word from the mother ever since.

The father is currently in Manila, but will not accept the responsibility of taking care of their kids. The family only has his mobile number.

I'm currently in the process of having a private firm track down the whereabouts of both the mother and father. Once they find them (no doubt they can find them) what should be the next course of action? Is there some kind of government body that has jurrisdiction over cases such as this?

[Alan S]

Dont know, but as parents, they are a waste of space, as you implied.
It would probably be best if they didnt have the kids back as they obviously dont intend to care for them.

In that case, about the best is that they would pay support towards their keep, but as they may well have nothing and little-or-no earning capacity, I cant see how that will work.
(However, if the kids suddenly came into money, I bet the parents would reappear, professing love and affection.)

I cant see any easy answer, and suspect that you may well be lumbered with the problem yourself (but I bet you have guessed that.)

Perhaps someone else may have some ideas.

[BigRob]

Yeah..the kids aren't the problem..its obvious the parents are.

Well...at least I can have fun and smack them around a bit after we find them.

[JohnFromTexas]

Sadly they're probably both busy making more kids...

[richard90027]

If you go to some of the immigration forum sites you will find a ton of women that have left their children behind to marry men in other countries and leave their children behind

[fanboat]

I think you should round up the 3 kids and rent a small house for them to live in(Uncle Rob)and hire a nanny to watch out for them.

All in for less than 300 bucks amonth.

the kids will never get over the abandonment by the mother for their whole life.

I know because this is what happened to my Gigi.

[tom_shor]

The kids would probably be better off with the parents out of the picture completly. If they don't want to be parents just find someone who does.

[RogerDuMond]

The court can order child support, but I think you have a problem with that. I don't believe they will order child support to be paid unless someone in the family has some type of legal custody. The next problem is one of collecting support if it is ordered. Good luck with the situation.

[BigRob]

fanboat, on 30 July 2010 - 02:04 AM, said:

I think you should round up the 3 kids and rent a small house for them to live in(Uncle Rob)and hire a nanny to watch out for them.

All in for less than 300 bucks amonth.

the kids will never get over the abandonment by the mother for their whole life.

I know because this is what happened to my Gigi.

Hehe..not an option for me Erik.

I'm not going to take on the responsibility of another man's lust.
Too bad that Luzon serial Killer was but away...I could of hired him toslap the father around for a bit before burying him.

No need for someone like that to be alive...just my two centavos.

[Cary]

My wife's older sister did the samething sort of. She had two girls by this one guy and then they broke up. Since then, my wife and I have been taking care of the girls. Rob, if you can afford it Fanboat's idea of atleast taking care of the children by paying for their schooling is an option.

[EAGLE]

" Another mans LUST" Tut tut

THE Children should be your only concern... IMHO

Tracking the Parents is a load of shit...

Find a home for the Kids...

YOU are there -- make a gesture of compassion --

NOT

REVENGE --- seeking the Parents... IMHO

Eagle

[locktite]

EAGLE, on 30 July 2010 - 04:48 AM, said:

THE Children should be your only concern...

Why should he be more concerned with the kids than say ... well maybe YOU would like to pony up? Hmmmm? Don't be shy now, step up captain save-the-world.

Or maybe your opinion is b*lls**t. Up to you.

[tom_shor]

Cary, on 29 July 2010 - 12:42 PM, said:

My wife's older sister did the samething sort of. She had two girls by this one guy and then they broke up. Since then, my wife and I have been taking care of the girls. Rob, if you can afford it Fanboat's idea of atleast taking care of the children by paying for their schooling is an option.

It's not the childrens fault their parents are bums.

[BigRob]

Cary, on 30 July 2010 - 03:42 AM, said:

My wife's older sister did the samething sort of. She had two girls by this one guy and then they broke up. Since then, my wife and I have been taking care of the girls. Rob, if you can afford it Fanboat's idea of atleast taking care of the children by paying for their schooling is an option.

It's not about being able to afford to support them. It's about doing what's right.

I've already employed two of family members to help support them.
Greasing the parents will make sure they don't have a chance to do this again...while also providing me personal satifaction.

[BigRob]

By the way...the father of the children is working, and from what I'm being led to beelieve is that he earns enough to support the kids.

[Cary]

That means that he is a dead beat SOB. Its a shame that the RP doesn't have a Child Welfare Services like the States does that has teeth to go after him and take his paycheck.

BigRob, on 29 July 2010 - 01:24 PM, said:

By the way...the father of the children is working, and from what I'm being led to beelieve is that he earns enough to support the kids.

[BigRob]

Shit...so Philippines doesn't have any kind of program like that?

[Cary]

It does:

http://www.dswd.gov.ph/

But just be prepared for a lot of red tape and very little real support from them.

[Willie]

I wouldn't suggest making any more changes to the children's environment, unless there are major problems. The current setup represents what is their family structure, so why disrupt it. If you are willing to provide a little money here and there, great. Other than that, unless there are problems like abuse or grandparent's health, then tread lightly might be the best option.

[BigRob]

I still wouldn't mind slapping the father around a bit.

[tom_shor]

BigRob, on 29 July 2010 - 01:22 PM, said:

Cary, on 30 July 2010 - 03:42 AM, said:

My wife's older sister did the samething sort of. She had two girls by this one guy and then they broke up. Since then, my wife and I have been taking care of the girls. Rob, if you can afford it Fanboat's idea of atleast taking care of the children by paying for their schooling is an option.

It's not about being able to afford to support them. It's about doing what's right.

I've already employed two of family members to help support them.
Greasing the parents will make sure they don't have a chance to do this again...while also providing me personal satifaction.

Oooooooooooooh. Now I understand. Works for me.

[tom_shor]

BigRob, on 29 July 2010 - 02:23 PM, said:

I still wouldn't mind slapping the father around a bit.

Me too. Do we have to take a number.

[Terry]

IMHO I would suggest ample life insurance policies on both dead beats with the kids as beneficiaries first. Then let nature take its course.

T

[BigRob]

Good idea...I will let you guys know when I find them..

Then I will drag them out to the vacant lot near SM, for all of you to slap both the mother and father around after I had my fun.

[win]

yeah, count me in on this fix, too...I feel my Sicilian heritage surfacing

tom_shor, on 30 July 2010 - 05:53 AM, said:

BigRob, on 29 July 2010 - 01:22 PM, said:

Cary, on 30 July 2010 - 03:42 AM, said:

My wife's older sister did the samething sort of. She had two girls by this one guy and then they broke up. Since then, my wife and I have been taking care of the girls. Rob, if you can afford it Fanboat's idea of atleast taking care of the children by paying for their schooling is an option.

It's not about being able to afford to support them. It's about doing what's right.

I've already employed two of family members to help support them.
Greasing the parents will make sure they don't have a chance to do this again...while also providing me personal satifaction.

Oooooooooooooh. Now I understand. Works for me.